Yeah everything you’ve just said is disgustingly anti-black. Like what you just wrote not only holds absolutely no basis but is some of the most disgustingly racist anti-black racist bullcrap I’ve ever read. I am disgusted, and if I’m honest based on what you just wrote black men don’t need someone as gross and anti-black in their life as you.
So this Ask came to whitepeoplesaidwhat’s Box and clearly you can see the vile and disgusting anti-Blackness here by this coward who apparently has now deleted their profile. I won’t even address this bullshit in the Ask because it reads like the average White racist website, except non-Black people of colour regularly engage in anti-Blackness because of their positions in White supremacy and proximity to Whiteness over Black people.
What I am going to address is the disgusting filth co-sign to the anti-Blackness above by some damn near libelous person supermariochick64 who added this upon reblog, invoking my name:
"She just grew up with an ideology. And our environments and social interactions does shape who we’re attracted to and unattracted to. I have a cousin who states that he isn’t attracted to black women because of AB and C experiences. As a WoC myself I’m not attracted to black men, but I still love them. I have good friendships with a few and obviously all my male relatives on my mother side of the family are black, and they mean the world to me. Honestly I think my reason is the same. More or less from observing the black men I was surrounded with or saw on those horrid reality tv shows and in the general public; for those whom I had constant interactions with (school, family, etc) I saw patterned qualities that repelled me and still does.. But then again she has the right to be attracted to anyone she likes. If she has a preference she can have it. You can’t police black women bodies. If you read gradient lair’s blog she speaks of black men and criticize them. Not to say other races are saintly, they’ve done some pretty nasty shit too when it comes to black women. But see growing up all the white/hispanic/asian guys were super nice to me and the blacks would call me all sorts of bitches and then fat or lame. So that shifted my attractions.”
First of all, who the FUCK are you as a non-Black woman or mixed WoC to use my deconstruction of Black intraracial oppression as an excuse to justify non-Black women’s anti-Blackness? This is like White racists suggesting that White men have the right to murder Black people because intraracial crime also exists. Keep your anti-Black crap away from my space, keep my name out of your mouth, learn reading comprehension. Seriously. Don’t you dare use my work to justify your unexamined hatred, rationalizations, stereotypes and misinformation.
Secondly, attraction does not exist solely based on interpersonal social interactions. It is also based on norms and values that do not exist arbitrarily or in a vacuum but in the context of a White supremacist society where the very notions of “goodness” and “beauty” themselves are constructed AGAINST Blackness. So your assertion that reads like "some of my best relatives are Black!" to justify this anti-Blackness is also FUCKSHIT. Do you hear me? SHIT.
Third, how dare you pull the "if you critique my anti-Blackness as a woman, then you’re a misogynist" card that so many White feminists do? No “body policing” exists here. The only thing here is anti-Blackness and justifications for it. Preferences for men based solely on anti-Blackness and not a critique of patriarchy, sexism, misogyny—what all men benefit from and are capable of engaging in—is not “body positivity” or “sex positivity.” It is solely anti-Blackness and using gender as a shield. No one is telling anyone who to date or what to do with their bodies. However, the justifications provided for why Black men are degraded and not other men are open for interrogation and comment. That does not mean someone is telling you who to be with. This purposeful misconstruction is anti-Blackness via derailment.
Don’t you dare think that this crap you spout is what my work is about. When I talk about Black intraracial community issues of oppression, about how Black men leverage male privilege intraracially because we live in a patriarchal society where White supremacy creates such a narrow space for their masculinity, and how internalized anti-Blackness contributes to misogynoir, that is deconstructing oppression, not “criticizing” them via the the bare bones insults of the original poster or your putrid defense. The defense is almost worst than the original comment since the rationalizations appear to be ones you think you have interrogated when it is bare bones anti-Blackness.
In other words, you clearly are being willfully ignorant, want to support a bigoted coward in the original Ask, and do not understand intersectionality nor anything that I write and wanted to throw out my name (for whatever fucking reason…I don’t know) to justify the crap. Please keep my name out of your mouth until you are at the level where you are wiling to interrogate the filth that you think you are going to use our Black intraracial conversations, experiences and oppressions to justify.
NOT a single post on my blog has EVER posited ANY men as better than Black men. And interrogating how Black men are BOTH oppressed AND oppressors is NOT the same as “white/hispanic/asian guys were super nice to me” so keep that fucking bullshit out of my goddamn life! Where did I suggest such shit? Is it in my “sublime men" blog tag about epic Black men or is it where I recommended the best Black male writers and tweeters for Black women to follow or included Black men in my top Twitter/Tumblr list for 2013? Fuck outta here…
I will defend Blackness vigorously and interrogate any and all oppression. And don’t you dare use my work to justify your facile fuckshit. How dare you? Stay away from my space. I consider you a threat to me, to my health and to Black people in general.
(And thanks for the rebuttal in support of me whitepeoplesaidwhat. I cannot believe this vile snake would mix my work up into their putrid hatred and ignorance.)
And for any asshole now interested in playing "non-Black WoC > BW, so must side with the bigot and slander Trudy" or "I never liked Gradient Lair anyway!" for attention, fuck off. FUCK OFF. My name being used to justify this anti-Blackness is a direct THREAT to me and my health and my people. So spare me. Take the impending tone policing and shove it up your ass. I said I’m a womanist. Not a doormat. Not a mammy. Not a punching bag. Not a silent accepter of abuse. And for concern trolls who will say "have you tried ignoring anti-Blackness?" fuck off too. You have NO CLUE how much I have to ignore and dodge just to exist online (and offline; shit) and how rarely I address things in comparison to the threshold that I receive.
Hold the hell up! Your abusive language is not appreciated nor warranted. I never said that I was mixed or non-black. Last time I checked both of my parents were black. And I was born black female. I’m not sure about what sort of playground-lets-help-the-bully operation you’re running with your circle. I’m not even sure you even observed the situation with a clear head. My comprehension skills are lacking yet you just accused me of being biracial and non-black and misread everything? Excuse Me? Seriously? I did not even once retort to abusive language and just say your bully of friend who was –ahem- helping you out piss on other black women who may or may not have been a minor(I assumed was a minor), as I am one myself who is still learning and navigating my way through this fucked up world like everyone else. Also by pointing out how a LOT of other black women feel the same way, and sharing my own unique experiences to empathize, since your friend has the maturity level of a peanut and has very unpleasant tendencies. Just because another black person doesn’t agree with you on everything that does not make them anti-black nor evil. I’m coward? Hmm yet you’re the one using abusive language on a 16 year black girl online and possibly another minor.
At least I have the guts to stand up to bullies. The girl was asking a question, and if your friend is too ignorant and fucked up to get upset over a question then she will/and probably is having a hard time learning basic communication skills. I referenced you, since I ‘thought’ you would be more understanding when it came to black women/female experiences. “Shit-head” “Coward” etc…? For real!? If I had any clue that you lash out, retort to slander and abusive language then I would’ve stopped reading and engaging in your blog a long time ago. Also I did SAY attraction has something to do with biological, environmental and social reasons as well.
I pretty much acknowledged that these white beauty standards plays a part in it, and provided reference. And I spoke about the unique experiences of some black females. Since I thought it was a safe space for black females. Hell, I don’t even have light skin privileges .__. Nor class privilege. Just because your (I am assuming) friend couldn’t stand up to a teen, that’s not my problem. Yet I am a danger to my own race, myself, and you? Uh-Huh, whatever you say. You and your friend can have fun being grown e-bullies towards other and black people. And I’ll continue to be a danger by posting picture of cosplay, glitter and cats. I guess it’s true what ‘Not Your Girl Friday’ says “Not all black women are your allies”. Also dear, I also I responded directly to you, and not through quotation, yet again I’m a coward. This was a perfect example of fail and bullshittery at it’s max.
Also ,Tom Hiddleston?(lol white boo? Derp derp, yet I was supposed to look like the confused one. Dear god. I have bipolar disorder, and I’m not even that much of basket case to laud a white man and call him boo while calling him a racist agressive asshole and indirectly kissing ass) on your blog? Seriously!? It’s your space, but don’t be a hypocrite please(since Tom Hiddleston has nothing to do with black female empowerment, which that I doubt it if he mingles with very unpleasant people. Space for black women=Occasional Tom Hiddleston love, even though he made no contributions to the black women or the black communty). At this point I could careless what you say or think, and the realty of it is a lot of black women as well.LOLFAIL *facepalm* Kthnxbai.